Caleb and Phoebe in dresses
There was a day quite some time back,possibly more than a year ago, in which Caleb had been quite mean to his sister. As a punishment we told him he had to let Phoebe play dress up with him. So we let her choose a dress and put a little bit of make up on him
He loved it! Phoebe had great fun being a princess with her brother. And it hit me,this wasn’t a punishment. This was just two kids having fun. They played nicely and giggled. Caleb didn’t care if he was in a dress. Phoebe didn’t see it as being any different to when her sisters would put on the princess dresses.
So why do some adults still see it as being wrong? It’s just a kid having fun. If girls can dress up as Ninja Turtles,Darth Vader or other masculine characters then why can’t society accept that boys can dress as feminine characters? Who did my son hurt exactly by wearing this dress? Nobody!
I’m not proud of myself for ever think this could be a punishment. If anything this is just normal behaviour from a young child playing dress up. Since then, I’ve never considered doing this as a punishment again. My children have a dressing up box, with male and female outfits, that they are free to choose whichever outfit suits their mood.
It’s not the children that are in the wrong. It’s the adults who think it’s awful that a boy dresses as a girl.